How to Enjoy Life as a Single Person on Valentine’s Day!

Are you single?

Around Valentine’s Day, many single people are often left feeling inadequate and missing out due to the fervent commercialization all around them.

It is almost as if you are incomplete or there is something wrong with you, if you are single. The pressure to be out celebrating with someone special can be immense – I am sure some couples probably just go out together just for the sake of it.

So if you are single, how about just doing something special just for yourself on that day? And then do the same every day of your life.

Here are some tips for creating a truly happy life as a single person and to prepare yourself for a future happy relationship:-

1. Be passionate about your life: Have a vision for your life and live by it every day. Have a purpose for getting out of bed every morning. What activity energises you? What makes time stop for you?
Your purpose is your own, whether you are single or with a partner, and you will be your happiest when fully living your life purpose. Having a partner is not a substitute for a meaningful life.

2. Build a community: Socialise and have fun. Join clubs around your favourite topics and volunteer your time and energy. Reach out to people already in your life and strengthen your communal ties. You will be creating a varied rich life, and you will have people in your life who care about you and your life, meeting many of your needs. This will in turn make you les needy and thereby more attractive.

3. Pamper and treat yourself everyday with something luxurious and pleasurable: This can be as simple as a ten minute walk, a drink at the local coffee shop, a body lotion that smells good, a tub of chocolate ice cream to have in the bath and so on. Remember that such treats are not just reserved for a partner to give you as gifts. Create a life full of such delicious moments and your whole outlook will improve.

4. Start doing the things that you have been putting off: Find one fun thing to do every week which you had put off doing till you had a partner, and then start crossing them off your list. And one day you can also do them again with your partner.

5. Put the past in the past: Be complete with past relationships and dump any baggage. Stop hanging on to unhappy moments from the past as a reminder to prevent the same thing happening again in the future. Let go of hurts and resentments towards anyone – forgive that ex-partner who was so mean to you.

6. Take stock of how you have behaved in previous relationships: Get clarity on what you contributed to past relationships not working out. Be kind to yourself as you do this and do not make it an excuse to beat yourself up all over again.